Congratulations on Your Engagement!
We’re so glad that you’ve chosen to marry in the Catholic Church. We are privileged to accompany you on the Journey of Your Love, and honored that you have entrusted us with equipping you to traverse both the joys and the inevitable challenges that married life brings. Our great joy, above all, is to assist you in encountering Christ’s love and its power to nourish and transform relationships.
The Marriage Preparation Process
1. MEET WITH CLERGY
Please call the parish office and schedule your first meeting with a clergy (priest or deacon), who may also serve as the celebrant for your wedding.
2. TAKE THE FOCCUS INVENTORY
FOCCUS (Facilitate Open Caring Communication Understanding & Study) encourages couples to discuss a broad range of topics that can help them learn communication and conflict resolution skills. Provided to couples at the parish or online.
3. ATTEND THE PARISH FINANCIAL LITERACY WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES
Workshops cover topics relevant to couples throughout their lifetime, from laying a premarital foundation for sound financial health to creating a financial legacy for future generations.
The workshops help:
- reduce stress in a relationship around the topic of money
- create a foundation for a more sustainable relationship
- explore faith and values and how they can enrich financial decision making.
Workshops provide couples with practical tools and do not involve any product sales.
4. FAITH FORMATION/CATECHESIS
1) Attend Celebrating Your Love: A Diocesan Retreat Day
A one-day retreat held on Saturdays at locations throughout the Diocese. The program presents a summary of Catholic teaching on marriage and an overview of life skills essential for marriage.
Go to sdcatholic.org/JOYL for dates and registration.
Celebrating Your Love: A Diocesan Retreat Day
Celebrating Your Love (Pre-Cana) is a Saturday retreat for engaged couples from around the Diocese to learn more about what makes Catholic marriage unique and how to renew their vows daily after the wedding ceremony.
Check-In & Refreshments
Welcome & Introductions
Created for Love: Before 'I Do'
Sacrament in Service to Communion: Saying 'I Do'
Marriage as a Process of Growth: Continuing the 'I Do'
Q & A Panel Discussion
Afternoon Workshops:(i.e. Ecumenical/Interfaith Marriage, Military Families, Practical Marriage Skills, Multicultural Families, Raising Children of Faith)
5. CHOOSE A MENTOR COUPLE AND BEGIN THE MENTORING PROCESS
SPX adopts Witness to Love as a way of guiding the couple-to-couple relationship. Couples will choose a mentor couple who can support, encourage, and pray for them throughout—and beyond— the marriage preparation process. The Marriage and Family Life Coordinator can help engaged couples select a mentor couple.
Witness to Love is a virtue and growth based model of marriage renewal and preparation that integrates modern principles of psychology and the virtues to help couples facilitate an authentic dialogue about their relationship.
WHAT MAKES WITNESS TO LOVE DIFFERENT?
What makes Witness to Love unique is that the engaged couples choose their own mentor couple. This is a couple they both admire and see as a source of faith formation. This mentor couple gives them a concrete connection and integration into the parish. Through the sharing of the mentor couples’ own Journey of Love, the engaged couple inherits a “lifeline“ of support in their commitment to Jesus and His Church.
5a. ENGAGED ENCOUNTER WEEKEND (OPTION)
The Engaged Encounter Weekend is and option for couples who, for practical or pastoral reasons (e.g. military), are not involved in the Witness to Love mentoring process. It is a wonderful retreat experience of presentations and person sharing related to marriage. For dates and registration, go to https://engagedencounter.com/
For more information, contact the parish office or email [email protected]